The first step to getting more time back is to prioritize the most important relationships in your life. I can’t think of anyone in my life that isn’t time starved including myself. We are all trying to do everything for everyone and a lot of the time not doing it well because we are stretched so thin. However, If we stop and look who we interact with each day and rank their importance, then the order in which we allocate time to them would most likely shift.
I have found the best way to get life balance is to put your relationships in order this way: God first, then self, spouse next, then immediate family, friends and lastly everyone else. Understand your priorities by making a list of the people you spend time with and how much time you spend with them. Are you spending the quantity and quality of time with the relationships that are most important to you? Put your day through a daily check-list of who is getting your time, and in what order, so you will help yourself stay accountable and know that you are focusing on the people most important to you.
The hardest priority for most people is to put themselves above everyone else outside of God. Instead of looking at it as being selfish, like we usually do, we need to make a mental shift that taking care of ourselves will allow us to take care of everyone else and to set a good example. Think of yourself as a cup that you need to fill every day. If you only fill your cup halfway, how much do you have for anyone else? But if you overflow your cup, you have plenty for other relationships in your life. Stay tuned for tips on how to make time for yourself and all your relationships. In the meantime, think through how you have been distributing time currently and are you truly taking time for the most important relationships.